This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. I explained that I was not calling any men to speak, due to their tendency to give perfect mother talks, and felt they could do a better job giving an honest uplifting talk that could be of benefit to the mothers in the congregation. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. I wish you were speaking in my ward! Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. I think its the best way to go. Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. Mother's Day Last year I used the last verse of "Teach Me to Walk in the Light" and the song "Teacher/Mother Do You Love Me" for the Mother's Day Primary songs in sacrament meeting. Primary kids sang Im so glad when Mommy comes home refreshing change. She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. Mother's Day is a special time to say thanks to the women in your life. What to Expect at Latter-day Saint Church Services He invites mothers to count the debits and credits in your role as a mother. President Hinckley then goes through a number of important gospel teachings mothers should focus on. I went to Sac. #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. Then I served in a Branch with 90% women who had absent husbands and who also grew up with absent fathers. She has your best interests at heart. I totally agree. Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. I don't understand it, but it is your logic. The woman described her family as she was growing up. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! Seriously, no one is going to be pleased. But arent mothers also sweet, like cookies? Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? Deep gratitde is owed to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for the Atonement which allows us each to recover from any missteps, no matter how far off the path one may stray. I meant to type rebellious children in #90. I guess mothers also die, just like plants, but not usually at our own hands. anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. The first speaker was a single father, then the bishop spoke, then the stake president spoke. The good talks that I have heard tend toaddressthe details ofan individual womans life, in all its messiness and particularity. How about honoring our mothers by not just focusing on what they do or have done for us (guilt trip for those that feel they never do enough) but focus on ways the members can help their mothers throughout each stage of their life. Aim at earth and you get neither. Feel free to disagree with Lewis as well, but I feel like Im in pretty good company at this moment! Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. The two adult speakers should center their talk on Jesus; if you want, assign a youth speaker to speak on Mothers, the Primary sings a song, and pass out the flower at the end. On Sunday Morning my sister and I drove almost 2 hours each way to go visit my maternal grandmothers grave. Book of Mormon Scriptures on Mothers. The Mother's Day Talk PSA - By Common Consent, a Mormon Blog Being there with my son was very nice. Food is the communication tool of choice for Latter Day Saints. Ours, like most, has its strengths and its weaknesses. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. Alma 56:47-48. In addition, there are doctrinal and scriptural classes for . A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. A friend once proposed a thought experiment. Until I see a longer lasting cease fire, Im staying home MD (with my mother and daughters). XD. Dont twist the knife; let them come to you if they want it. Im grateful for it. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? A break from the primary room!) No fuss, no muss. Now we have a tradition that during the last ten minutes of priesthood meeting, they gather all the classes from deacons to high priests together in the multi-purpose room and present them with Fat Boy ice cream sandwiches. Which meeting do you think would be more meaningful to the participants? We can only celebrate the nonentity because we are afraid of hurting those who are not being celebrated "today". Thanks for clarifying. Ugh ugh ugh. In my nearly 40 years in the church that has borne true. Still, I think the flak about Sister Becks talk is nonsense. A BIGTHANK YOU to Heather Mecham for compiling all the results from this survey. me) before deciding on these speakers. Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. I wanted to know more, so here are his thoughts. Actually..mother's day should be everyday. I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. Women have mothers too! Not within an hour of reading this post did I get a call from a member of our bishopric asking me to speak on Sunday. Which also makes me wonder about why we Americans dont recognize International Womens Day. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. I was dreading it, but I was rescued by my sister coming to town for the next 3 days yayyyy. Sorry I missed that. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. Through this ordinance, Church members renew the covenants they made with God when they were baptized. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. I recommend that you take President Eyrings approach and assume that the women to whom you are speaking are doing their best, but that often their very best means just barely hanging on. But shes never experienced the horrors I have where the local ward nut case talks about how his wife isnt putting out thanks to menopause. Mark did as well in his postminus the saccharine and accent. Mothers day will likely be about Gods unconditional love for us and how it pains Him to see us struggle And how even mothers cannot quite reach that level of love, but we understand the concept because most of us love our children in much the same way (but n, Focus your talk on how much we ALL need Jesus (even mothers) because we are all sinners (read the Bible It tells us so). It isn't uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers. Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. This was very informative and interesting. I know that traditionally it has been men and children who honor mothers. I give, is it supposed to be about mothers or not? I dont think sacrament meeting is such an inappropriate place to do that, either. What does that say about us as a people? . I'd suggest that women at various stages in their lives speaking about what the joy in womanhood, being a divine daughter of God means to them in different stages of life, would at least eliminate all that talk and honor of mothers who have lots of children and do everything right that cause so much pain to women everywhere. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. Steve P, It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Mark, very good advice IMO. Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). 18 Powerful LDS Scriptures on Mothers | Read Them All Here In partaking of the sacrament and making these commitments, Church members renew the covenant they made at baptism (see Mosiah 18:810; Doctrine and Covenants 20:37). Im the counselor in charge of calling speakers for Mothers Day. Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. Mothers Day is celebrated, and increasingly commercialized, but my impression of the local situation is that ones obligation to honor ones mother is largely discharged at home. This is what I need for . I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. I issue a challenge to top this worst Mothers Day sacrament meeting talk. Classic! Dont take us out of Primary to go eat Treats! I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. More than at any time in the history of the world, we need mothers who know. Thanks for the reminder. It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. Is this our Sharon Haynie from DN branch? Wow! So how does tax exemption relate to churches, and especially churches that [], You are so much more than the worst thing youve everdone., http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/, Inside the UK's Mormon missionary bootcamp - BBC, Former mayor, LDS bishop gets prison for child sex abuse - Salt Lake Tribune, The anti-racist Mormon trying to teach his fellow LDS church members - NPR, Mormon Church fined over claim it hid $32bn of investments - BBC, Linda King Newell, Feminist Scholar of Mormon History, Dies at 82 - The New York Times. by Leading Saints | Apr 27, 2016 | Articles, Bishops, Elders Quorum, Relief Society | 21 comments, In 2016 Leading Saints conducted a survey about ward mothers day gifts. Many said not to assign "mother" or "female" focused messages in sacrament meeting, others said to keep your efforts simple as long as it is sincere. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! And Im batting clean up. President Eyringonce said that when he meets somebody for the first time, he assumes that person is struggling mightily with an intractable problem, and cannot see any possible solution. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. The greatest Mormon blog in the universe. What if you brought in padded RS chairs for the YW & PRI workers, including Nursery sisters, so that they can feel a little comfort on that Sunday? All my daily tasks fulfilling, I had some ideas but didn't want to repeat anything that had already been done from the Primary. Clap my hands and shout for joy! Most of us brought up to beleive that the man of the home was were it was at. Probably low on the most desired list, but very creative and I will always remember that with a smile. each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. As a mother of six kids, Ive had some serious depression about motherhood in general over the years but not usually on Mothers Day. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. I have work enough to do, Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. It seemed to strike just the right tone. However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. Let's apply your logic standard to other holidays. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! Local leaders are ministering to them at this time," Church spokesman Eric Hawkins said. But in Argentina, where Mothers Day is in October, they also tended to recognize International Womens Day (March 8) even in church (in addition to a wide variety of other holidays Childrens Day, Grandparents Day, etc.). I come to church to be fed spiritually, and sappy poems and stories are never ever going to measure up to the meat that scriptural examples can provide. They are there, you just have to do a little digging. Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). Thank you. Focus on womanhood and examples of strong women, not on a perfect homemaker mother. Is this really the Mothers Day message I need? Why is that or is that just in my ward? Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks - 34 Ideas - Nat Harward This is brilliant, Mark. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. Well we could have it like the Sacrament Meetings for Father's Day and have it be your usual every Sunday meeting and not even talk about women or mothers. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. It is good to share personal stories, but be aware that your own family might be abit stranger than you think. The story of Martha and Mary each bringing important and valuable things, even though they were very different. I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. 2. Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009. You can still give the women the day off. I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. They may have services on Holy Mother Mary but then again, she left her son behind in Jerusalem and didnt even notice she had forgotten him for quite some time before going back to look for him so not sure about her mothering skills ;)). Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. Required fields are marked *. According to our teachings, Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. Because I know the real story so it is distracting from the fake one that they are giving. Geesh! I love this. I would love to avoid Mothers Day meetings, just because they are usually tedious, but I love to go for the sake of seeing my kids sing. For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. Drunk as he could be. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. iPhone. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Church Newsroom November 10, 2022 Church The First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). please please please please dont pull us teachers from Primary for pie or talking. I hope Sunday goes well for you. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. Or any talk. My best friend (unmarried, childless at 51) has been asked to speak. Please add to the possibility of what LDS women are dealing with: they didnt have the best mothers themselves, they are the adoptive parents of mothers who, for whatever reason couldnt be a mothers, (adoptees and foster children or adults that have been in foster care could be particularly vulnerable as well); they work outside the home and love it, they work outside the home and hate it, they cant stand being mothers, the list could go on and on. Mothers Day was pure torture and the only time I ever serious entertain thoughts of staying home. It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. (just kidding). As I journey on my way, The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. It was perhaps the best talk I gave as a bishop. don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. It was a powerful meeting and very real. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. Yeah, it would be pretty late to be thinking about music now. We know very little about HM and HF really. From all accounts, her talk was very well received. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. The Mother's Day Fiasco That Changed My Perspective on Motherhood - LDS and read for the dayLOL, isnt that a nice dream?? We got there at about 7:30 AM and one of my Aunts had already been there and left flowers for her. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). Christmas is not a universal holiday and thus we should not celebrate one day a year, We focus on Christ every day and every Sunday so there is no need to celebrate on Christmas. Cannot load blog information at this time. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. I agree! It is the essence of who we are as women. Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. Saw the survey and didnt reply, but one suggestion-Please have enough for EVERY female in the ward or branch. So no one is left out. His explanation was not to offend any sister. Crowd-sourcing request. MD really is a no-win. In this talk, Elder Holland focuses on three different experiences that reflect the majestic influence of mothers. The first is a cautionary tale, where a friend who was drifting away from the Church expressed he could not stand the thought of facing his deceased mother. Respect her. My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. Ive never objected to any Mothers Day program, and in my ward, all women get a gift, married, single, divorced, widowed, with or without children. Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. Please use the comments to make your own contributions. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. And that concludes the story of how NewlyHousewife learned not to attend church on Mothers Day. Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. Mothers, we acknowledge and esteem your faith in every footstep. It is also a reminder that through His mercy and grace, all people will be resurrected and given the opportunity for eternal life with God. We got a response from172 females and 51 males. For years the tradition in my ward was a simple gift for all sisters 18 and older. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. Maybe the Hallmark channel should use some of his conference clips as fillers when movies end early. Mrs. Gui, All the little Guis and their little Guis, the violin, photography, Prokofiev, Mahler, Terry Pratchett, Patrick OBrian, Umberto Eco, sci-fi and fantasy, Brigham Young, playing Bluegrass with real Kentuckians. Im amazed that we arent using the most recent conference materials . I like the idea of a simple gift for those in attendance.
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